Parents who raise intelligent and confident children always do 5 things during difficult times

Parents who raise intelligent and confident children always do 5 things during

We all want to raise confident and intelligent children. A psychologist specializing in adolescent development says the key is for parents to provide you with reassurance from an early age.

Children, especially teenagers and young adults, sometimes need reassurance that what they are thinking and feeling is normal and okay. In fact, psychologists believe that validation is one of the most powerful parenting tools, and yet it is often left out of traditional behavioral parent training programs.

Validating your child's feelings doesn't necessarily mean you condone or condone their actions. It simply means showing that you listen, understand and accept them.

5 methods used by successful parents according to psychologists:

1. They normalize experiences

Friendships help children develop important life skills, but none are perfect.

Remind your child that all friendships go through ups and downs. In stable relationships, close friends inevitably disappoint and irritate from time to time.

2. They provide physical comfort

Several studies have found the benefits of interpersonal contact. For example, hugging can lower blood pressure and instill a sense of care and security.

Let's say your child is feeling upset about something. Before you say a single word, you can rub his back, hug him or hold his hand.

3. They learn that quality trumps quantity

A study found that teenagers who had many - but more superficial - friends at school were more anxious.

Plus, contrary to what most kids think, being popular doesn't make loneliness easier.

Reassure your child that he does not need hundreds of friends, whether on social networks or in real life. A few will do, as long as they are loyal, trustworthy and supportive.

Research shows that along with peer acceptance,

4. They focus on the positive

I often see children dwell on a small social disappointment, which at that moment seems bigger and more urgent than all the positive things in their lives.

While you empathize with your child's distress, refocusing their attention on their most recent triumphs and pleasures allows them to appreciate the things that really matter.

5. They give hope

Let your child know that even though they are going through a difficult time right now, it won't last forever. Things will get better. This is not fiction. Social situations will change because children will change.