Yes, yes, you can make love with the same person throughout your life

Yes, yes, you can make love with the same person throughout your life

"With the same person it is possible to make love for life, but it should not be like a prison. There is a time, especially that of youth, which should rightly be devoted to research and learning. Some relationships that are born in school banks and continue for decades seem more like family ties than erotic ones. Erotic freedom can also be the freedom to always choose the same body, provided that in this body I am always able to find something new", says Massimo Recalcati.

Massimo Recalcati knows what he is talking about, because he is a psychoanalyst and has been dealing with relationships for a long time.

Yes, not only for this reason. He himself has a long relationship with his wife. 20 years of love.

"She amazes me even today, surprises me. Couples who don't have healthy relationships are the ones who want to share everything with each other. On the contrary, I think that a couple's relationship can last over time if they are able to maintain the mystery. I still love her because even today she is still unfathomable to me. Unknown, a mystery".

According to Recalcati, there are two elements that prevent fulfillment from love today.

“On the one hand, there is the scientific tendency to consider bodies as if they were machines lubricated with dopamine. On the other hand, there is the idea of ​​consumer relations, since we consume goods of all kinds. There is a compulsive search for the new. We are used to thinking that exchanging an old object for a new one brings pleasure, while we psychoanalysts know well that a new thing simply brings the same unhappiness. In the consumer society everything is consumed in accelerated times, including love and sex…”